endotwins sex tips
for the sexy endo sufferers
#1: Intro to Sex Tips For The Sexy Endo Sufferers
Sex is a huge subject for women with endometriosis. It can be excruciatingly painful and sometimes impossible. Because of that, I've had times when I was borderline uninterested. Luckily, at my core I love sex, and I was determined to figure it out again. I've been with my boyfriend for nine years now so we were together as young, steamy teens and together when I was too sick and too pained for anything relating to sex. Turns out he loves sex and loves me as well, so he was willing to work it out with me.
#2: Don't be afraid to say no
There are many, many different sexual positions out there. Through having Endometriosis and Adenomyosis, plus a dysfunctional pelvic floor, I've learned some just don't work for my body, and that is OKAY. I don't know too much about anatomy but being chronically ill has helped a bit. There is something about the positioning of "doggy style" (or any positions from behind) that makes my bladder, pelvic floor, and uterus begin a war inside of me. Now, the good thing, there are a ton of other positions that work so much better! For example, on top, where you have complete control. Control is your bestfriend in the bedroom, ladies.
#3 Pelvic Floor Therapy AKA Vaginal Xanax
I can't stress enough how important pelvic floor therapy is for us and our sex lives. Through simple exercises, we can learn how to relax the muscles that have been stuck tight due to years of chronic pain. Imagine your pelvic floor as a fist that can not open up. Doesn't sound pleasant, right? That could be a huge reason why sex doesn't feel good. The more relaxed you are, the more positions will feel good, the more chance of achieving an orgasm, and the easier it will be to even insert something inside of you! Personally, I can feel the difference internally after a PT session.
#4 Exhale Fear and Get it On
If you've had pelvic floor therapy you've probably learned about breathing to help relax your pelvic muscles. Breathing actually does a lot more than just relax your hoo-ha, it relaxes ALL muscles. This can help with anxiety and even acheving an orgasm. There is a lot of anxiety that comes with having sex with reproductive issues. Will I have pain? Will I be able to enjoy this? Will I perform right? What if? What if's can rule your world if you have generalized anxiety and even more with sex.
#5 Heating it up
Recently I spoke with an endo-sister about what works for her during sex. I wanted to know more than changing positions and the emotional aspect of doing it, things I had written about before. She told me about playing around with hot and cold. My first thought was, hot definitely sounds amazing because what endo gal doesn't love some heat? She explained that not only can you warm up (or freeze) glass sex toys for pleasure/comfort, you can also buy things like massage gels and pain reliving creams that can be heated and applied basically anywhere!
#Let's talk orgasms
Hey ladies, I'm here to talk about orgasms. They're amazing, we all know that part. What we also know is that when you have Endometriosis, they can be super painful. Especially after, which is just rude as hell. It's almost as if the universe is saying, "Here's an incredible magical feeling but when it's over, you might as well die. Enjoy those seconds while you can." and then laughs hysterically in your face. So, unfortunately, I'm not a wizard who can fix your pelvic pain, or we would all be cured by now. But, I can share what I do when I'm already having pain, to avoid a BIT of the pain we experience.